Being judgemental

Reading ‘scientific research’ column in today’s newspaper made me ask some questions to myself. I jotted them down and one of the questions in the list was- Do we perceive one another in exactly the same manner? My answer would be in negation. Next, does age provide us with an ample amount of wisdom to frame an appropriate conclusion about a person’s behavior? Yeah. But then what about people with split personalities. Further does experience teach us how to analyze them in one go? May be it does. May be it does not. And topping the list was the question- Why am I asking these questions all of a sudden? Don’t know but that article has driven me really crazy. These days, I am looking for ways to utilize my ‘almost null’ experience and ‘absolutely little’ wisdom in analyzing behavior of people around me.

At this moment I recall a significant statement stated by my colleague, Vishakha, while we were on our way from office in the metro. We were discussing some random stuff in relation to which she said ‘Mitali, these are the instantaneous but significant reactions of a person to small incidents which describe his/her behavior and big incidents depict his/her intelligence and wisdom because we apply our brain in dealing through them.’ Apparently, she is correct and that philosophical article further adds value to her point. Indeed our spontaneous reactions to normal situations do speak words about our default character.

They are an apt measure of the degree of patience we have, the amount of ‘easily lost temper’ we contain, and of the insurmountable courage we own. They also speak volumes about how much social, caring and helpful we are, how much happiness we derive from other’s success and how much feeling of jealousy we hold. Implicitly, they do add value to how much dedication we have towards our work. They give us the true proportion in which we imbibe fifty shades of emotions and hundred colors of displayable qualities. However, our reactions to big incidents of life certainly depict our intelligence and wisdom. They can only be learnt through experience. So they really cannot describe our ‘by default’ behavior. Small reactions are the signs to watch out for.

So I see, she had already given me the answer to all my questions. My only need now is to be observant enough and understand reactions of people to various situations. A great many thanks to you, Vishakha!